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Beth E. Maultsby | August 14, 2022
Most hotly contested custody cases involve at least one party with a personality disorder or mental health problem. The disordered party is driving the litigation train and everyone else is in for a bumpy ride. Unfortunately, the personality disorder or mental health issue is often not recognized by the attorneys and/or judge involved in the case. By failing to be able to identify a personality disorder or mental health problem, attorneys and judges contribute to perpetuating high conflict cases and litigation. The end result is irreparable damage to families.
To effectively represent and defend against the client with the personality disorder or mental health problem, attorneys and judges need to recognize and understand the personality traits that comprise the two seen in the family law court. This article will describe the personality disorders and mental health problems most frequently seen in the family law courts and discuss how to represent and defend against clients with these disorders. The mental health problems addressed in this article is Bipolar Disorder and the personality disorders discussed are: borderline, narcissist, obsessive compulsive, histrionic, dependant, paranoid and antisocial.
Personality Disorders and Mental Health: A personality disorder is a clinical term that is used to describe individuals who have personality traits that have become exaggerated, rigidified and inflexible to the point that there is a significant impairment on the person’s daily functioning. Major mental health issues are medical conditions that disrupt a person’s thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others and daily functioning. Serious mental issues include major depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, panic disorder, and post traumatic stress disorder. The existence of the personality disorder or mental health issue most often leads to significant problems in the individual’s work and personal lives. On the surface, the client with the mental health issue or personality disorder may look no different from anyone else. However, after you spend time with this client and observe them in a crisis, the issues in their ability to function will begin to surface.
The Personality Traits of the Client with Personality Disorders and Mental Health Issue Wreak Havoc in the Family Law Court: Intense conflicts will eventually arise in the marriages of those individuals with personality disorders and mental health issues. As such, clients with personality disorders or mental health issues are the ones most likely to be involved in protracted custody litigation. The divorce process will be a very conflictual process due to the party with the personality disorder or mental health issues engaging in the following types of behavior:
Guidelines to Follow in Representing The Client with a Personality Disorder or Mental Health Problem: Inrepresenting a client with a personality disorder or mental health issue, the following are some guidelines to follow:
The Role of the Family Law Court Process in the Custody Litigation: For the party with a personality disorder or mental health problem, all the world is a stage — including court. They are highly skilled at and invested in the adversarial process. They see the judge as fulfilling the role of the all-powerful person who will punish or control the other spouse for them. They will perceive that the focus of the court process is to fix blame and they will use or attempt to use their attorney to champion their cause. Even the mental health professionals involved in the case are often manipulated by the party with a disorder or mental health problem. The mental health professional does not have sufficient protection from being sued so they have a tendency to only describe personality traits and do not take firm positions against the disordered party for fear of being sued. The end result is that rather than being protective, the family court process can be very unpredictable and inadvertently encourages false allegations, aggressive and sometimes violent behavior, and intense blaming of the parent that does not have a personality disorder or mental health issue. Many clients have been unable to protect themselves and their children from abuse by the parent and spouse with a personality disorder or mental health issue. Instead, they have found themselves experiencing restraining orders, supervised visitation, financial sanctions and even incarceration, because the courts are often more persuaded by the intense emotions and blaming behavior of the party with the personality disorder or mental health issue.
The court must realize that the parties are often not equally at fault. A non-offending spouse may truly need the court’s assistance in dealing with the offender. The court should not be neutralized by mutual allegations without looking deeper. Otherwise, because of their personality style, the most offending party is often able to continue their offender behavior — either by matching the other’s true allegations for a neutral outcome, or by being the most skilled at briefly looking good and thereby receiving the court’s endorsement. The court is in a unique position to motivate needed change in personal behavior. In highly contested cases, counseling or consequences should be ordered. Professionals and parties must work together to fully diagnose and treat each person’s underlying problems, rather than allowing the parties (and their advocates) to become absorbed in an endless adversarial process. Because their largest issues are internal, they will never be resolved in court.
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV criteria for Bipolar Disorder is as set forth below:
Bipolar I Disorder–The essential feature of Bipolar I Disorder is a clinical course that is characterized by the occurrence of one or more Manic Episodes or Mixed Episodes. Often individuals have also had one or more Major Depressive Episodes. Episodes of Substance-Induced Mood Disorder (due to the direct effects of a medication, or other somatic treatments for depression, a drug of abuse, or toxin exposure) or of Mood Disorder due to a General Medical Condition do not count toward a diagnosis of Bipolar I Disorder. In addition, the episodes are not better accounted for by Schizoaffective Disorder and are not superimposed on Schizophrenia, Schizophreniform Disorder, Delusional Disorder, or Psychotic Disorder Not Otherwise Specified.
Bipolar II Disorder–The essential feature of Bipolar II Disorder is a clinical course that is characterized by the occurrence of one or more Major Depressive Episodes accompanied by at least one Hypomanic Episode. Hypomanic Episodes should not be confused with the several days of euthymia that may follow remission of a Major Depressive Episode. Episodes of Substance-Induced Mood Disorder (due to the direct effects of a medication, or other somatic treatments for depression, a drug of abuse, or toxin exposure) or of Mood Disorder due to a General Medical Condition do not count toward a diagnosis of Bipolar I Disorder. In addition, the episodes are not better accounted for by Schizoaffective Disorder and are not superimposed on Schizophrenia, Schizophreniform Disorder, Delusional Disorder, or Psychotic Disorder Not Otherwise Specified.
A. Five (or more) of the following symptoms have been present during the same 2-week period and represent a change from previous functioning; at least one of the symptoms is either (1) depressed mood or (2) loss of interest or pleasure.
Note: Do not include symptoms that are clearly due to a general medical condition, or mood-incongruent delusions or hallucinations.
B. The symptoms do not meet criteria for a Mixed Episode.
C. The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
D. The symptoms are not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition (e.g., hypothyroidism).
E. The symptoms are not better accounted for by bereavement, i.e., after the loss of a loved one, the symptoms persist for longer than 2 months or are characterized by marked functional impairment, morbid preoccupation with worthlessness, suicidal ideation, psychotic symptoms, or psychomotor retardation.
A. A distinct period of abnormally and persistently elevated, expansive, or irritable mood, lasting at least 1 week (or any duration if hospitalization is necessary).
B. During the period of mood disturbance, three (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted (four if the mood is only irritable) and have been present to a significant degree:
C. The symptoms do not meet criteria for a Mixed Episode.
D. The mood disturbance is sufficiently severe to cause marked impairment in occupational functioning or in usual social activities or relationships with others, or to necessitate hospitalization to prevent harm to self or others, or there are psychotic features.
E. The symptoms are not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication, or other treatments) or a general medical condition (e.g., hyperthyroidism).
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: Bipolar Disorder (also known as manic depression) causes serious shifts in mood, energy, and thinking. There will be extreme highs of mania to the extreme lows of depression. More than just a fleeting good or bad mood, the cycles of Bipolar Disorder last for days, weeks, or months. Unlike ordinary mood swings, the mood changes of Bipolar Disorder are so intense that they interfere with an individual’s ability to function.
In the manic phase, the individual has feelings of heightened energy, creativity, and euphoria. People experiencing a manic episode often talk a mile a minute, sleep very little, and are hyperactive. They may also feel like they’re all-powerful, invincible, or destined for greatness. But while mania feels good at first, it has a tendency to spiral out of control. Eventually, a person in a manic episode will engage in reckless behavior such as spending excessive sums of money, impulsively quit a job, charge up huge amounts on credit cards, inappropriate sexual activity, or making foolish business investments. They may also become angry, irritable, and aggressive. They will pick fights and lash out when others don’t go along with their plans. They will blame anyone who criticizes their behavior. In the manic phase, the person will feel rested after sleeping two hours. If the disorder goes untreated, some people even become delusional or start hearing voices.
Certain symptoms are more common in bipolar depression than in regular depression. For example, bipolar depression is more likely to involve irritability, guilt, unpredictable mood swings, and feelings of restlessness. In the depressive phase, individuals tend to move and speak slowly, sleep a lot, gain weight, be too tired to get out of bed and full of self-loathing and hopelessness over being unemployed and in debt. In addition, they are more likely to develop psychotic depression-a condition in which they’ve lost contact with reality-and to experience major disability in work and social functioning.
It is important to understand that the Bipolar Disorder can look very different from person to person. The symptoms vary widely in their pattern, severity, and frequency. Some people are more prone to either mania or depression, while others alternate equally between the two types of episodes. Some have frequent mood disruptions during their life, while others experience only a few over a lifetime.
BIPOLARS WE HAVE KNOWN, LOVED OR FEARED: The following individuals have or may have Bipolar Disorder: Patty Duke, Carrie Fisher, Britney Spears, Linda Hamilton, Connie Fisher, Jim Carrey, Drew Carrey, Ted Turner, and Marilyn Monroe.
CAUSES: The exact cause of Bipolar Disorder is not positively known. However, many experts believe that multiple factors are involved which act together to cause this mental health problem. Bipolar Disorder may result from a chemical imbalance within the brain. The brain’s functions are controlled by chemicals called neurotransmitters and an imbalance in the levels of one of these neurotransmitters may cause Bipolar Disorder. When levels of a certain chemical or chemicals are too high, mania occurs and when levels drop below normal levels, a person may experience depression. There is also a significant genetic component to Bipolar Disorder. Family members are at risk if another family member has Bipolar Disorder. Also, recent life events and interpersonal relationships often trigger the onsets and recurrences of bipolar mood episodes. For example, a stressful life event is often the trigger of a bipolar episode. Thus, Bipolar Disorder does not occur just because of one gene, rather, the cause of Bipolar Disorder is likely a combination of multiple genetic and environmental factors.
COURSE: Bipolar Disorder generally occurs in late adolescence or young adulthood. However, the first symptoms of Bipolar Disorder can occur in pre-adolescence. If Bipolar Disorder manifests itself in childhood, the child will have a mix of mania and depression symptoms with rapid and severe cycling between moods producing chronic irritability. The younger the age of onset of Bipolar Disorder, the more likely it is that there is a significant family history of the disorder. The course of Bipolar Disorder is dependent on a number of factors, such as the severity, the age of onset, co-morbid conditions, frequency of episodes, cycle pattern and the presence or absence of “rapid cycling”. Early onset of Bipolar Disorder most commonly starts with a depressive episode and there may be many episodes of depression before the first manic episode. Regardless when the onset of the disorder occurs, there is a significant time-lag between the onset and the time the person receives their first treatment.
PREVALENCE: Approximately 1 in 83 people in United States suffer from Bipolar Disorder. The prevalence of Bipolar Disorders in the United States is almost three times greater than previously reported.
MALE V. FEMALE: There appears to be no distinction in the incidence of bipolar depression among men and women. Both sexes experience typical onset of the condition around age 20. However, the first episode in males tends to be manic and the first episode in females tends to be depressive. In men, the episodes of mania and depression are of approximately equal duration, whereas depression tends to dominate in women. Furthermore, rapid cycling is most likely to occur in women and women may be more likely than men to be hospitalized for manic episodes.
CO-MORBIDITY: Other psychiatric and medical conditions are greatly increased in individuals with Bipolar Disorder. These co-morbid conditions can make it more difficult to treat and manage. The two most common co-morbid conditions are anxiety disorder and substance abuse; the National Comorbidity Study in 1999 reported a prevalence of 93% for anxiety disorder and of 64% for substance abuse in patients with Bipolar I Disorder. Individuals with Bipolar Disorder who also have a history of substance abuse have a more complicated disease course than those with no history of substance abuse. Co-morbidity of medical and psychiatric disorders is more common in women than men. Co-morbidity, particularly thyroid disease, migraine, obesity, and anxiety disorders occur more frequently in women than men. Both men and women with the Bipolar Disorder have high rates of co-morbidity with alcohol and other substance use disorders.
BIPOLAR DISORDER AND SUICIDE: The depressive phase of Bipolar Disorder is often very severe, and suicide is a major risk factor. In fact, people suffering from Bipolar Disorder are more likely to attempt suicide than those suffering from regular depression. Furthermore, their suicide attempts tend to be more lethal. The risk of suicide is even higher in people with Bipolar Disorder who have frequent depressive episodes, mixed episodes, a history of alcohol or drug abuse, a family history of suicide, or an early onset of the disease.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: There is currently no definitive medical test for diagnosing Bipolar Disorder. Furthermore, there are a number of physical conditions and quite a few psychiatric disorders which present symptoms that can be confused with those of Bipolar Disorder (such as borderline personality disorder discussed below). And just to complicate the issue even more, there are a great many psychiatric disorders can occur in tandem with Bipolar Disorder. In reaching a diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder, the evaluator will conduct a medical history and physical exam, a complete psychiatric history, a family history of medical and psychiatric symptoms and an evaluation of the individual’s current symptoms.
The lag time between the onset of a bipolar episode and treatment may predict a poorer response to treatment. Medication is the cornerstone of treatment for Bipolar Disorder. Most individuals need the medication to regulate their moods and avoid relapse. The medication functions by directly manipulating brain and body chemistries. Unfortunately, 50 percent of individuals diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder do not take the prescribed medications. The manic-side energy and impaired judgment will provide powerful incentives to your client to skip medication. The client will prefer to stay in the mania high. Further, not only does the medication level out the extreme highs, each drug has an array of side effects from weight gain to cognitive dulling. Most people with bipolar depression are not helped by antidepressants. In fact, there is a risk that antidepressants can make Bipolar Disorder worse-triggering mania or hypomania, causing rapid cycling between mood states, or interfering with other mood stabilizing drugs. Prescribing tolerable drugs in tolerable dosages for each case is a psychiatric high-wire act. Talk therapies are not generally appropriate as primary means of Bipolar Disorder treatment, although they can be quite helpful and even essential as adjunctive treatments.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: The daily interactions of Bipolar Disorder can be a threat to any social relationship, including marriage. Individuals with Bipolar Disorder have trouble containing their emotions and are often irritable and unpredictable due to their mood swings. Living with someone having Bipolar Disorder is very stressful and the marital relationship is filled with misunderstandings and conflicts. Reckless behavior like abuse of alcohol or drugs, accidents from excessive risk taking, financial burden from over-spending, inability to remain gainfully employed and sexual infidelities have the potential to unravel even the most loving of relationships. Family members often struggle with feelings of guilt, fear, anger, and helplessness. Ultimately, the strain can cause serious relationship problems. As such, it is not difficult to link Bipolar Disorder and divorce. Divorce occurs in almost 90 percent of marriages in which one partner is suffering from Bipolar Disorder.
It is very common for an individual to have never been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder until shortly before or after the divorce action is filed. This fact is often true because the person may have been suffering from a milder case of Bipolar Disorder and thus the mood swings were not as pronounced. However, upon the occurrence of a stressful event or the filing of the divorce, a full blown episode of mania is triggered and the extreme mood swings and dramatic shifts between manic and depressive occur. The stressful event may be the cause of the divorce or may be the divorce itself.
REPRESENTING AND DEFENDING AGAINST THE CLIENT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER: Bipolar Disorder does not have to be fatal to being a good parent. There’s a big difference between being a parent with Bipolar Disorder which is stable verses unstable. If a parent is managing their Bipolar Disorder, then it does not compromise the child’s best interests to be in the care of that parent. Thus, a parent suffering from Bipolar Disorder is well-served to be candid about their condition. In most cases, the parent’s openness will cause the judge to consider the mental health issue in a light most favorable to the candid parent.
How to Identify if your Client is in a Manic Episode: As noted above, the events leading up to the filing of the divorce or the filing of the divorce itself, may have triggered a manic episode in your client. As a result, during your representation, you may notice that the client is exhibiting behaviors that don’t seem “normal” – something is just not right to you. If so, then assess the client’s behavior by reviewing the following behaviors that indicate whether the client is in a manic episode:
What Actions to Take if You Believe that the Client is Suffering from Bipolar Disorder: If you are going to be successful in representing the client with Bipolar Disorder, then you must ensure that your client is properly diagnosed and treated. Accordingly, if you believe that your client is suffering from Bipolar Disorder you may consider taking some of the following steps:
What the Client Needs to do to be Successful: The most critical element to being successful in overcoming the disorder and being a good parent is for your client to acknowledge the diagnosis of the disorder and to pursue the proper treatment. This may sound easier than it really is due to the characteristics of the disorder itself. The client needs to:
How to Defend Against the Opposing Party with Bipolar Disorder: If the opposing spouse suffers from Bipolar Disorder, you may want to take the following action:
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV describes borderline personality disorder (BPD) as a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
The name BPD is confusing and imparts no relevant or descriptive information. When the term “Borderline Personality” was coined in the 1950s, patients didn’t fit other diagnostic categories. Today, the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorders is campaigning to change the name and designation of BPD in the DSM V which will be out in 2013. There is also discussion about changing BPD, an Axis II diagnosis (personality disorders and mental retardation), to an Axis I diagnosis (clinical disorders).
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: The central feature of BPD is instability, affecting individuals in many sectors of their lives. The BPD individual demonstrates a wide range of impulsive behaviors, particularly those that are self destructive. BPD is characterized by wide mood swings, intense anger even at benign events, and idealization followed by devaluation. The BPD individual’s emotional life is a rollercoaster and his/he interpersonal relationships are particularly unstable. Typically, the BPD person has serious problems with boundaries. They become quickly involved in relationships with people, and then quickly become disappointed with them. They make great demands on other people, and easily become frightened of being abandoned by them. People with BPD may even experience brief periods in which they separate from reality and have a psychotic episode.
BORDERLINES WE HAVE KNOWN, LOVED OR FEARED: The following celebrities have or may have BPD: Princess Diana, Heather Mills, Courtney Love, Lindsey Lohan, Amy Winehouse, and Angelina Jolie. Examples of BPD are a predatory Glenn Close in “Fatal Attraction” and Jessica Walter who played in “Play Misty for Me”.
CAUSES: BPD has no known causes. However, if as a child, someone was sexually abused, had a disrupted family life or had abandonment issues, they may be more likely to suffer BPD.
COURSE: BPD affects young people, and usually begins in adolescence or youth. BPD is usually chronic, and severe problems often continue to be present for many years. The level of long term improvement in persons with BPD varies a great deal. A minority will develop a successful career, marry happily, and recover completely. In the majority of cases, both impulsivity and emotional instability decline over time, and the patient is eventually able to function at a reasonable level. The borderline pathology tends to “burn out” in middle age, and most patients function significantly better by the ages of thirty-five to forty. Nearly 3/4 of the individuals with BPD attempt suicide or display self-mutilating behaviors like cutting themselves with razors or burning themselves. The risk of suicide is greatest during young adulthood and seems to diminish with age. Only about 10% of suicide attempts are successful.
PREVALENCE: BPD is probably the most prevalent personality disorder. A 2008 study of nearly 35,000 adults in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry found that 5.9% – which would translate into 18 million Americans – had been given a BPD diagnosis. In 2000, the American Psychiatric Association believed that only 2% had BPD.
MALE V. FEMALE: BPD has long been regarded as disproportionately affecting women. There are about three times more women than men diagnosed with BPD.
CO-MORBIDITY: Nearly 90% of those with BPD are also diagnosed with another personality disorder or major mental health issue, including Bipolar Disorder. They are also prone to eating disorders. Despite the psychotic features that might exist, there is no correlation between BPD and schizophrenia.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: Clinicians who are trained to diagnose and treat those with BPD will watch for “extreme” and frequent ups and downs, inordinately harsh self-judgment and behavior that is best described as being a “drama queen”. The symptoms of BPD are most often confused with Bipolar Disorder. John Gunderson, a psychoanalyst specializing in BPD gives the following criteria in order of importance in diagnosing BPD:
Persons with BPD are among the most difficult to treat. These individuals are here one day and gone the next – physically, emotionally, behaviorally or attitudinally. The individual that suffers from BPD is not likely to feel that he/she needs help. For those who seek treatment, group therapy has been effective in altering some of the behavior. Medications can also help with BPD. Unfortunately, because the BPD individual typically doesn’t see a problem with themselves, they don’t follow instructions and don’t cooperate with treatment or trust the people who are trying to help. In the end, “curing” BPD is rare, although when given appropriate treatment, a large percentage may assume “some type of functional role with modest health-care utilization, but it takes years to get there.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: In a word, BPD is “traumatic” for family members. A spouse or parent with BPD can appear quite functional in their interactions with others – highly competent, focused, and driven to be successful – but there’s intense inner chaos that tends to be projected only onto close family members. It is particularly difficult to deal with the family member’s suicidal threats, attempts and hospitalizations. Women with BPD tend to choose narcissistic men as their spouses. In these marriages, the narcissistic husband initially finds his BPD wife attractive, but later becomes abusive or abandoning.
REPRESENTING AND DEFENDING AGAINST THE BPD CLIENT: High-conflict divorces and custody suits are common in a case involving a BPD. When the case involves the custody of children, many times there are elements of domestic violence, false allegations of domestic violence or sexual abuse, distortion campaigns, and parental alienation. Further, the individual with BPD will often seek out new relationships during the divorce process to ameliorate the pain of anxiety and separation.
How to Identify if a Party has BPD: Because individuals with BPD seldom recognize that they have any problems, it is rare that the person has already been diagnosed as BPD. The following list of behaviors can help you determine if your client or his/her spouse is suffering from BPD. The more criteria that are present, the more likely it is that the individual is a BPD:
Behaviors to Expect from BPD Clients: Clients with BPD will engage in the following types of behavior:
How to Manage the BPD Client: In representing the BPD client, you will need to:
Help Your Client to Understand Their BPD Spouse: A number of books are available that can provide your client with some guidance as to how to deal with the BPD spouse and the effects of the disorder on children. The books include: “Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Somebody You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder” and “Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living with Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder” both by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreiger; “Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Tense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship” by Dr. Christine Ann Lawson; and “The Borderline Personality: Vision and Healings” by Dr. Nathan Schwartz-Salant.
How to Defend Against the Opposing Party with BPD: It is not only difficult to diagnosis this disorder but it is also difficult to defend against it. So, it is important that you and your client gather information and documents to help the judge or evaluator determine that the spouse is indeed suffering from BPD. If you believe that the opposing spouse suffers from BPD:
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV describes the narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and presents in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: The interpersonal relationships of persons with NPD are typically impaired due to their lack of empathy, disregard for others, exploitativeness, sense of entitlement, and constant need for attention (called “Narcissistic Supply”). Individuals with NPD typically fall into two categories. The NPD individual may be “cerebral” and derive their Narcissistic Supply from their intelligence or academic achievements. Or, the NPD individual may be “somatic” and derive their Narcissistic Supply from their physique, exercise, physical or sexual prowess and romantic or physical “conquests”. The NPD may be either overbearing or charming and seductive. The NPD assumes that everyone else will accept their point of view and they will not hesitate to use gross or subtle coercion to achieve their goals. The individual with NPD will tend to blame others for any relationship or business problems and attempt to avoid looking at their own contribution. Individuals with NPD feel injured, humiliated and empty when criticized. They often react with disdain, rage, and defiance to any slight, real or imagined.
NPD symptoms may include:
NARCISSISTS WE HAVE KNOWN, LOVED OR FEARED: Many of the most famous narcissists have been convicted of committing murder. They include O.J. Simpson, Ted Bundy, and Scott Peterson.
CAUSES: It is commonly attributed to childhood abuse and trauma inflicted by parents, authority figures, or even peers.
COURSE: The onset of pathological narcissism begins in infancy, childhood and early adolescence. The course is variable and often prolonged. There appears to be no good data on the course of NPD.
PREVALENCE: Between 0.5-1% of the general population are diagnosed with NPD.
MALE V. FEMALE: Overwhelmingly, most narcissists are men. The percentage may be as high as 75%.
CO-MORBIDITY: NPD is often diagnosed with other personality disorders, such as the HPD, BPD, paranoid, and antisocial personality disorder.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: The prognosis for an adult suffering from NPD is poor, though his adaptation to life and to others can improve with treatment. The common treatment for patients with NPD is talk therapy. Talk therapy is used to modify the narcissist’s antisocial, interpersonally exploitative, and dysfunctional behaviors, often with some success. Medication is prescribed to control and ameliorate attendant conditions such as mood disorders.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: When the narcissist reveals his true colors, it is usually far too late. His victims are unable to separate from him. They are frustrated by this acquired helplessness and angry at themselves for having failed to see through the narcissist earlier on. A spouse and parent with NPD often treats their spouse and child the same – idealizes them at first and then devalues them in favor of alternative, safer and more subservient, sources. Such treatment is traumatic and can have long-lasting emotional effects. The inability of the parent with NPD to acknowledge and abide by the personal boundaries set by others puts the child at heightened risk of abuse – verbal, emotional, physical, and, often, sexual. The narcissist’s possessiveness and negative emotions, such as rage and envy – hinder the individual’s ability to act as a proper parent. The NPD individual’s propensities for reckless behaviour, substance abuse, and sexual deviance may also endanger the child’s welfare, or even his or her life.
REPRESENTING AND DEFENDING AGAINST THE NPD CLIENT: The party with the NPD has a sense of entitlement that is endless and the other party will be maligned and disparaged. In the mind of the narcissist, the other party is worthless and deserves nothing. The narcissist will be vindictive and often stalks and harasses the other party. The narcissist makes a divorce the battleground and their spouse the enemy. There are two primary ways of coping with the vindictive narcissist in a custody case. The first method is to frighten them by exposing their lies and embarrassing them. If sufficiently deterred – the narcissist may disengage and give up everything they were fighting for and sometimes make amends. The other method is to neutralize the narcissist by offering them continued Narcissistic Supply until the war is over.
Behaviors to Expect from NPD Clients: Clients with NPD will engage in the following types of behavior:
How to Manage Clients with NPD: In working with the NPD client:
Preparing Your Client for Dealing with the NPD in a Court of Law: The following are some pointers for the client dealing with the NPD spouse in the family law court:
Expose the Lies of the Narcissist: It is possible to “break” a narcissist, even a well-trained and prepared one if you and your client are prepared. Narcissists are superhuman in their capacity to distort reality by offering highly “plausible” alternative scenarios, which fit most of the facts. It is essential to be equipped with absolutely unequivocal, first rate, thoroughly authenticated and vouched for information. The following actions can be used to expose the lies of the narcissist:
Provoke the Narcissist: The narcissist reacts with narcissistic rage, hatred, aggression, or violence to an infringement of what he perceives to be his entitlement. Any insinuation or hint that the narcissist is not special will often result in the narcissist losing control and exposing their true colors. The narcissist finds the following devastating:
The narcissist may lose control if you state to them:
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV describes obsessive compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) as a pervasive pattern of preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, and mental and interpersonal control, at the expense of flexibility, openness, and efficiency, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: The primary characteristics of OCPD are rigid adherence to rules and regulations and an overwhelming need for orderliness, perfectionism, and control. People living with OCPD are inflexible, perfectionists and unwilling to yield responsibilities to others. They are reliable, dependable, orderly, and methodical, but their inflexibility makes them unable to adapt to change. Because they are cautious and weigh all aspects of a problem, they have difficulty making decisions. They take their responsibilities seriously, but because they cannot tolerate mistakes or imperfection, they often have trouble completing tasks. People with OCPD are often high achievers, especially in the sciences and other intellectually demanding fields that require order and attention to detail. However, their responsibilities make them so anxious that they can rarely enjoy their successes. They are uncomfortable with their feelings, with relationships, and with situations in which they lack control, must rely on others or events that are unpredictable.
CAUSES: Family dynamics and parenting styles most often explain the origin of OCPD. As a child, the OCPD person was often consistently punished for negative behavior, failure, and rule-breaking and at the same time, he/she did not receive any praise for success and compliance. Their parents put pressure on them as a child to get control of themselves and to behave like little adults, rather than as an independent and individual person. In an effort to be good and to gain their parents’ approval, the child became trapped in an internal struggle to gain control of his/her own “bad” or “dangerous” impulses, desires, and feelings. The child then develops into an adult who is inwardly and perhaps even unconsciously, angry, and outwardly very driven to achieve respect and approval.
COURSE: It usually begins in early adulthood and has a chronic course.
PREVALENCE: OCPD, is one of the more prevalent personality disorders in the United States. Approximately sixteen million adult Americans meet the diagnostic criteria for OCPD-that’s 7.9 percent of the general population.
MALE V. FEMALE: OCPD is twice as common in males as females.
CO-MORBIDITY: People with OCPD are susceptible to major depressive episodes, due to stress, tension, and social rejection. Depression is often triggered by just the everyday physical and cognitive limitations that come with aging that are difficult for the OCPD individual to handle. Anxiety disorders, social phobia, specific phobias, mood disorders, and eating disorders often co-occur with OCPD.
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN OCPD AND OCD: The term OCPD implies a relationship with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) – this is not true. OCPD is not a less severe version of OCD. While OCD and OCPD share some symptoms, the two disorders are unrelated. OCPD has certain important differences from OCD. People with OCD are often aware that their obsessions are abnormal, but are compelled to perform them anyway. People with OCPD, however, believe their need for strict order and rules is perfectly normal. OCD often interferes with the OCD individual’s success in social and work environments. While people with OCPD certainly have difficulties with social relationships, they usually tend to perform well in work environments.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT OF OCPD: OCPD is diagnosed based on the individual’s symptoms and personal history. In arriving at a diagnosis of OCPD, it is important to rule out other medical conditions that can mimic OCPD, including:
The overall prognosis for OCPD is better than for many other personality disorders. Because the OCPD individual defers to authority and rigid self-control, they are less likely to abuse medication or cease treatment. On the other hand, the hidden rebelliousness of OCPD may lead to a subconscious rejection of treatment. Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors may help reduce the compulsive behavior in the OCPD individual.
OCPD’S AFFECT ON THE MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN: The OCPD spouse and parent are often domineering and rude. They will attempt to hold family members accountable for conforming to rules and unrealistic expectations, resulting in constant conflicts over personal control and independence. Further, the OCPD spouse and parent do not have the capacity to comprehend the emotional needs of their spouse and children. Financially, the OCPD individual tends to be thrifty to the point of miserliness, hoarding money for some imagined future catastrophe. This behavior often creates financial arguments in the family. The person with OCPD also does not recognize their internal conflict between conforming and their subconscious rebellion. This conflict often manifests itself as psycho-physiological conditions, including stress-induced muscle tension, anxiety, and impotence and cause further stress in the family.
How to Manage the Client with OCPD: In representing the OCPD client:
How to Defend Against the Opposing Party with OCPD: The suggestions made in the section on BPD disorder can be adapted and used when defending against the opposing party with OCPD.
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV lists eight symptoms that form the diagnostic criteria for histrionic personality disorder (HPD):
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: The individual with HPD displays an enduring pattern of attention-seeking and excessively dramatic behaviors. Individuals with HPD are charming, energetic, manipulative, seductive, impulsive, erratic, and demanding. They conspicuously seek attention, are dramatic and excessively emotional. The HPD’s lively and expressive manner results in easily established but often superficial and transient relationships. Their expression of emotions often seems exaggerated, childish, and contrived to evoke sympathy or attention. People with a HPD are prone to sexually provocative behavior or to sexualizing nonsexual relationships. Some individuals with HPD also are hypochondriacal and exaggerate their physical problems to get the attention they need. The HPD individual expresses a strong need to be the center of attention. Individuals with HPD exaggerate, throw temper tantrums, and cry if they are not the center of attention. Individuals with HPD are naive, gullible, have a low frustration threshold, and strong dependency needs. Further, HPD has a unique position among the personality disorders in that it is the only personality disorder explicitly connected to a patient’s physical appearance – the individual with HPD is overly concerned with appearance.
CAUSES: The cause of HPD is unknown, but childhood events such as deaths in the immediate family, illnesses within the immediate family which present constant anxiety, divorce of parents and genetics may be involved. Individuals who have experienced pervasive trauma during childhood have been shown to be at a greater risk for developing HPD as well as for developing other personality disorders.
COURSE: The pattern of craving attention and displaying dramatic behavior for an individual with HPD begins by early adulthood. The personality characteristics of individuals with HPD are long-lasting. Symptoms can last a lifetime, but as individuals with HPD age, they display fewer symptoms. Some research suggests that the difference between older and younger individuals may be attributed to the fact that older individuals have less energy.
PREVALENCE: The prevalence of HPD in the general population is estimated to be approximately 2%-3%.
MALE V. FEMALE: Clinicians tend to diagnose HPD more frequently in females. The research suggests that the connection between HPD and physical appearance holds for women rather than for men. Also, researchers have found that HPD appears primarily in men and women with above-average physical appearances.
CO-MORBIDITY: HPD has been associated with alcoholism and with higher rates of somatization disorder, conversion disorder, and major depressive disorder. Personality disorders such as BPD, NPD, antisocial, and dependent can occur with HPD.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: A diagnosis of HPD can usually be made by the person’s appearance, behavior, and history. However, there is no test to confirm this diagnosis. Because the criteria are subjective, some people may be wrongly diagnosed as having the disorder while others with the disorder may not be diagnosed. Treatment is often prompted by depression associated with the ending of a romantic relationship. The diagnosis of HPD is complicated because it may seem like many other disorders, and also because it commonly occurs simultaneously with other personality disorders.
Medication does little to affect HPD, but may be helpful with symptoms such as depression. Psychotherapy may also be of benefit. HPD may require several years of therapy and may affect individuals throughout their lives. Some professionals believe that psychoanalytic therapy is a treatment of choice for HPD because it assists patients to become aware of their own feelings. Individuals with HPD utilize medical services frequently, but they usually do not stay in psychotherapeutic treatment long enough to make changes. They tend to set vague goals and to move toward something more exciting.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: Deep cracks that develop in one’s personality due to suffering from HPD make it difficult to become a good spouse or parent. The HPD individual tends to have clashes with family members on minor issues. There is a high rate of separations, affairs and divorce in the cases of HPD. When the client with HPD appears in the family court, they may have similarities to BPD but with less anger and more chaos.
Behaviors to Expect from Clients with HPD: Clients with HPD will engage in the following types of behavior:
How to Manage Clients with HPD: In working with the HPD client:
How to Defend Against the Opposing Party with HPD: The suggestions made in the section on BPD disorder can be adapted and used when defending against the opposing party with HPD.
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV states that five of the following criteria should be present for a diagnosis of dependent personality disorder (DPD):
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: DPD is characterized by a pervasive psychological dependence on other people. People with DPD routinely surrender major decisions and responsibilities to others and permit the needs of those they depend on to supersede their own. They lack self-confidence and feel intensely insecure about their ability to take care of themselves. They often protest that they cannot make decisions and do not know what to do or how to do it. These individuals will decline to be ambitious and believe that they lack abilities, virtues and attractiveness.
Individuals with DPD see other people as much more capable to shoulder life’s responsibilities, to navigate a complex world, and to deal with the competitions of life. They see other people as powerful, competent, and capable of providing a sense of security and support to them. Individuals with DPD avoid situations that require them to accept responsibility for themselves; they look to others to take the lead and provide continuous support. DPD’s judgment of others is distorted by their inclination to see others as they wish they were rather than as they are. These individuals are fixated in the past. They maintain youthful impressions; they retain unsophisticated ideas and childlike views of the people toward whom they remain totally submissive. Individuals with DPD view strong caretakers, in particular, in an idealized manner; they believe they will be all right as long as the strong figure upon whom they depend is accessible. Complications of this disorder may include depression, alcohol and drug abuse, and susceptibility to physical, emotional and sexual abuse.
CAUSES: DPD is more common in those who have suffered from chronic illness in childhood. A specific stressful life event as a child may result in DPD if the child’s dependent behavior in response to the event becomes chronic and significantly interferes with day-to-day functioning and/or causes the child significant distress. Chronic physical illness or separation anxiety disorder in childhood or adolescence may predispose the individual to develop this disorder.
COURSE: DPD usually begins in early adulthood, and has a chronic course. Dependent behavior is very common in childhood, but most adolescents grow out of this behavior. Unfortunately, for some, this dependent behavior persists and intensifies into adulthood.
PREVALENCE: Overall prevalence is approximately one to two percent of the general population.
MALE V. FEMALE: This disorder is more frequent in females.
CO-MORBIDITY: DPD frequently occurs in tandem with other personality-based mental health issue, such as BPD and HPD. It is also believed that those diagnosed with DPD are at an increased risk of mood and anxiety disorders.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: The following questions may be used in assessing individuals for DPD:
The primary treatment for DPD is psychotherapy, with an emphasis on learning to cope with anxiety, developing assertiveness, and improving decision-making skills. Group therapy can also be helpful. In cases where parents or other adult caregivers seem to be facilitating the behavior, therapy for them is also appropriate.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: Individuals with DPD see relationships with significant others as necessary for survival. Because they are unable to function independently; they have to be in supportive relationships to be able to manage their lives. Spouses with DPD typically depend on the other spouse to decide where they should live, what kind of job they should have and which neighbors to befriend. They may go to great lengths to stay in a marriage. Not only will individuals with DPD subordinate their needs to those of their spouse, they will meet unreasonable demands and submit to abuse and intimidation to avoid isolation and abandonment. As a result, they will often marry a more aggressive spouse, sometimes with a personality disorder.
They will try hard to please their spouse. At the same time, their clinging behavior can make the marriage relationship difficult to establish and maintain. When the marriage ends, a person with DPD will feel desperate and unable to take care of herself/himself. When a marriage is ending, individuals with DPD may urgently seek another relationship to provide the care and support they need. Parents with DPD may become co-dependent on their children and develop an unhealthy dependence on them. The result may be a very dysfunctional parent-child relationship leaving the child feeling responsible for the DPD parent.
REPRESENTING AND DEFENDING AGAINST THE DPD CLIENT: The DPD client may feel vulnerable, helpless and depressed over the break-up of the marriage. Divorce will elicit powerful feelings of rejection and abandonment from the DPD client. They will come to you feeling let down by the one person upon whom they had depended.
Behaviors to Expect from Clients with HPD: Clients with DPD will engage in the following types of behavior:
How to Manage the Client with DPD: In working with the DPD client:
How to Manage the DPD Client’s Passive Aggressive Behavior: Individuals with DPD have particular trouble expressing anger or resentment in a direct manner because they fear rejection and disapproval. If your DPD client has accumulated anger that is buried, they may develop passive aggressive traits. If so, then they will express anger or resentment indirectly in a way that would be hard to “blame them”. They will act this way to all the people in their lives – including you. The passive aggressive DPD client can be very difficult to deal with because they smile, nod their head and appear to be cooperating but later show their lack of compliance in various ways. The following are a few examples of such behavior:
Despite the DPD client’s reasonable explanation for such behavior, there is most certainly anger underneath it. In working with passive aggressive clients:
How to Defend Against the DPD Opposing Party: The suggestions made in the section on BPD disorder can be adapted and used when defending against the DPD opposing party.
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV describes paranoid personality disorder (PPD) to be a pervasive distrust and suspiciousness of others such that their motives are interpreted as malevolent, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: People with PPD are distrustful and suspicious of others. They are generally cold and distant in their relationships. Based on little or no evidence, they suspect that others are out to harm them and usually find hostile or malicious motives behind other people’s actions. Thus, people with PPD may take actions that they feel are justifiable retaliation but that others find baffling. This behavior often leads to rejection by others, which seems to justify their original feelings.
As a general rule, individuals with PPD remain in touch with reality and don’t have any of the hallucinations or delusions seen in patients with psychoses. Nevertheless, their suspicions that others are intent on harming or exploiting them are so pervasive and intense that people with PPD often become very isolated. They avoid normal social interactions. And, because they feel so insecure in what is a very threatening world for them, patients with PPD are capable of becoming violent. Paranoid suspicions carry over into all realms of life. Those burdened with PPD are frequently convinced that their sexual partners are unfaithful. They may misinterpret compliments offered by employers or coworkers as hidden criticisms or attempts to get them to work harder. Because they persistently question the motivations and trustworthiness of others, individuals with PPD are not inclined to share intimacies. They fear such information might be used against them. As a result, they become hostile and unfriendly, argumentative or aloof. Their unpleasantness often draws negative responses from those around them. They have little insight into the effects of their attitude and behavior on their generally unsuccessful interactions with others. People with PPD are likely to place all the blame on others.
CAUSES: No one knows what causes PPD, although it is thought that familial and genetic factors may influence the development of the disorder in some cases. There seem to be more cases of PPD in families that have one or more members who suffer from such psychotic disorders as schizophrenia or delusional disorder. Some therapists believe that the behavior that characterizes PPD might be learned. They suggest that such behavior might be traced back to childhood experiences. According to this view, children who are exposed to adult anger and rage with no way to predict the outbursts and no way to escape or control them develop paranoid ways of thinking in an effort to cope with the stress. PPD would emerge when this type of thinking becomes part of the individual’s personality as adulthood approaches.
COURSE: PPD begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts. The long-term projection for people with PPD is bleak. Most patients experience predominant symptoms of the disorder for the duration of their lifetime and require consistent therapy.
PREVALENCE: Between 0.5% and 2.5% of the general population of the United States may have PPD. A significant percentage of institutionalized psychiatric patients, between 10% and 30%, might have symptoms that qualify for a diagnosis of PPD.
MALE V. FEMALE: The disorder appears to be more common in men than in women.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: The PPD diagnosis is usually made on the basis of the doctor’s interview with the patient or a diagnostic questionnaire. In addition, input from people who know the patient may be requested.
Psychotherapy is the most promising method of treatment for PPD. It is extremely difficult to establish a secure relationship with the therapist due to the dramatic skepticism of individuals with PPD. People with PPD rarely initiate treatment and often terminate it prematurely. Medications are usually contraindicated for PPD because they can arouse unnecessary suspicion that will usually result in noncompliance and treatment dropout. Medications which are prescribed for specific conditions should be done so for the briefest time period possible to bring the condition under management.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: The PPD is a disaster for relationships. The PPD spouse can vacillate between being warm, concerned, loving and attentive to being abusive, suspicious, projecting, accusing, blaming, critical, demanding, belittling and downright cruel. The warmth and concern of a PPD cannot counterbalance the damage and hurt that can be inflicted upon significant others.
REPRESENTING AND DEFENDING AGAINST THE PPD CLIENT: The PPD client may be the most litigious personality disorder. They cannot acquiesce and they will feel powerless in the court system. For the PPD individual, the trauma of the divorce will exacerbate and reinforce their suspiciousness. It is not uncommon for the party with PPD to contend that their spouse has been planning the divorce for a long time and that others have been colluding with them. The PPD client will deny any personal or retaliatory intent against their spouse and will act self righteous and contend their spouse is the one that needs to be stopped. The PPD parent will be the parent first to raise the alienation issue in the custody case and the parent first to alienate the children. Because the PPD client cannot recognize their behaviors, they will put polarizing pressure on the child.
Behaviors to Expect from Clients with PPD: Clients with PPD will engage in the following types of behavior:
How to Manage the Client with PPD: In working with the PPD client:
How to Defend Against the PPD Opposing Party: The suggestions made in the section on BPD disorder can be adapted and used when defending against the PPD opposing party.
DSM IV CRITERIA: The DSM IV describes the antisocial personality disorder (ASP) as a pervasive pattern of disregarding and violating the rights of others. Diagnostic criteria for this disorder state that this pattern must include at least three of the following specific signs and symptoms:
Other important characteristics of this disorder include that it is not diagnosed in children (individuals younger than 18 years of age), but the affected person must have shown symptoms of this diagnosis at least since 15 years of age. Additionally, it cannot be diagnosed if the person only shows symptoms of antisocial personality disorder at the same time they are suffering from schizophrenia or when having a manic episode.
DESCRIPTION AND SYMPTOMS: ASP is one of the most violent and aggressive of the various personality disorders. Also known as psychopathic personality or sociopathic personality disorder, ASP describes a complete disregard for the rights, feelings, or safety of others. People with an ASP show callous disregard for the rights and feelings of others. Dishonesty and deceit permeate their relationships. People with an ASP act out their conflicts impulsively and irresponsibly. They tolerate frustration poorly, and sometimes they are hostile or violent. Often they do not anticipate the negative consequences of their antisocial behaviors and, despite the problems or harm they cause others, do not feel remorse or guilt. Rather, they glibly rationalize their behavior or blame it on others. Frustration and punishment do not motivate them to modify their behaviors or improve their judgment and foresight but, rather, usually confirm their harshly unsentimental view of the world. People with an antisocial personality are prone to alcoholism, drug addiction, sexual deviation, promiscuity, and imprisonment. They are likely to fail at their jobs and move from one area to another. People with an antisocial personality have a shorter life expectancy than the general population.
CAUSES: The exact cause of ASP is unknown. However, they often have a family history of antisocial behavior, substance abuse and divorce. As children, many were emotionally neglected and physically abused.
COURSE: ASP is a lifelong personality disorder that begins before age 15. The disorder is chronic, though it tends to be worse early in its course. The disorder peaks during the late teens and early 20s. The disorder tends to diminish or stabilize with age. In their 40s and 50s, about half the people with ASP are either improved or in remission. Age 35 is the average age that improvement is likely to be seen in terms of a reduction in dangerous and destructive behavior.
PREVALENCE: ASP appears in 3.6 percent of the adult US population, or approximately 7.6 million people. Sociopaths and psychopaths make up a high percentage of inmates in United States prisons.
MALE V. FEMALE: The condition appears to be more common in men than women. An estimated eighty percent of male inmates have antisocial personality disorder. Female sociopaths are thought to make up 65 percent of the population in women’s prisons.
DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT: ASP is not as difficult to diagnose as some personality disorders. Many cases of ASP only come to medical attention when the person seeks medical attention by a court of law. In such cases, the psychopath can be expected to resist both diagnosis and treatment. For a diagnosis of ASP, a childhood diagnosis of conduct disorder is required (or evidence that the person met the diagnostic criteria for conduct disorder as a child).
Like many other personality disorders, ASP has symptoms that can be explained by the presence of other conditions, and these conditions must be ruled out during diagnosis. Such conditions include manic episodes and schizophrenia, as well as other personality disorders, including:
Therapy has been used to treat ASP, with limited success. Group therapy at the outset is not recommended, given the sociopath’s preferences for confrontational and manipulative interaction. Intensive, long-term, inpatient treatment has been shown to be successful if the patient is cooperative. Ultimately, time appears to be the best treatment for ASP. Medications are not generally advised, as the sociopath will either not take the medication, or, in many cases, abuse it.
AFFECT ON MARRIAGE AND PARENTING: The poor impulse control, lack of patience, and uncaring attitude, cause individuals with ASP to have trouble staying in relationships such as marriage. Spouses with ASP are experts at manipulation and hidden agendas. Despite their behavior on the surface, there is likely a self-serving goal underneath. The ASP spouse is not concerned with how their spouse feels about anything, but they are concerned about their feelings and their situation. The ASP spouse will feel entitled to torment their family due to the divorce process. Among all the personality disorders, persons with ASP are more likely to abuse and neglect. They will often hold property hostage as they deal in the divorce. They will also make a variety of threats, the most common being “I’ll quit my job so you’ll not receive child support!” or “I’ll move away where the court can’t find me!” The ASP individual is typically not a good parent – there will be little emotional attachment and a lack of bonding with the children.
REPRESENTING AND DEFENDING AGAINST THE ASP CLIENT:
Behaviors to Expect from the Client with ASP: Clients with ASP will engage in the following types of behavior:
How to Manage the Client with ASP: In working with the ASP client:
How to Defend Against the ASP Opposing Party: The suggestions made in the section on NPD and BPD disorder can be adapted and used when defending against the ASD opposing party. In addition, if your client is divorcing an ASP spouse:
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