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How Can You Overcome the Emotional Distress of a Spouse’s Affair?

Thomas A. Greenwald | May 13, 2024

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Navigating the aftermath of an affair is an emotionally challenging and complicated experience. It can leave you feeling lost, alienated, and unsure of what to do next. When this happens, many choose to explore potential legal options, asking questions like, “Can I seek compensation for the emotional distress caused by my spouse’s affair and its impact on all aspects of my life (personal, career, financial, etc.)?” While you are well within your rights to evaluate potential legal approaches to the situation, you should not neglect the basics of self-care. Your mental health needs to be a priority while you examine what legal steps to take next.

Prioritizing Emotional Healing and Self-Care Post-Affair

The emotional impact of an affair takes a heavy toll, and its effects can often be devastating and long-lasting. Prioritizing self-care can help you to clear your mind and approach your situation from a practical standpoint rather than an emotionally driven one. Only by improving your mental health can you see the best path forward for you.

Ways to prioritize your emotional healing and self-care after a divorce include:

  • Seek Professional Support: Consider counseling to help you process your emotions and develop coping strategies.
  • Build a Support Network: Lean on friends, family, or support groups who understand and can provide emotional support.
  • Explore Self-Care Practices: Engage in activities that promote well-being, such as exercise, hobbies, and mindfulness techniques.
  • Set Boundaries: Protect your emotional space by setting boundaries with your spouse or others involved.

Can an Affair Influence the Outcome of My Divorce Proceedings?

Those who have been impacted by an affair often assume that the infidelity will affect how the divorce proceedings play out, but this depends on the type of divorce you choose to pursue. In Texas, there are two types of divorce: no-fault and fault. A no-fault divorce, also known as uncontested divorce, allows couples to divorce without one party being identified as the party that is solely to blame for the divorce. Fault-based divorces, on the other hand, are named as such because the cause behind the divorce is considered during the proceedings. In Texas, a court may consider fault in dividing the marital estate. Fault may include adultery and cruel treatment. Adultery is defined as voluntary sexual intercourse of a married person was someone other than a spouse. The effects of an affair may be emotional as well as financial. A Texas court will look at all the relevant evidence related to an affair to determine how it will impact an overall division of the parties’ estate.

Adultery may be established by direct evidence or circumstantial evidence. Examples of evidence of adultery include:

  • Eyewitness accounts
  • Confession by a spouse
  • Emails or text messages
  • Credit card statements or bank records
  • Videos, recording, or photographs

It’s important for individuals facing these situations to seek advice from an experienced family law attorney who can provide clarity on their specific circumstances and potential legal options.

Contact The Divorce Attorneys of Goranson Bain Ausley Today to Learn More

If you’ve been affected by a spouse’s affair, contact the experienced family law attorneys at Goranson Bain Ausley today. Our lawyers will lend an empathetic ear to your situation while providing you with the legal advice and insights needed for your case. Schedule a consultation online now, or contact our offices in AustinDallasPlanoFort Worth, Midland, or Granbury to get started.

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