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Divorce and Mental Health: How to Manage the Psychological Impact of Divorce

Aimee Pingenot Key | October 30, 2024

Divorce is one of the most stressful life events anyone can experience. From legal complications to financial challenges, those navigating the divorce process have no shortage of obstacles to clear. These issues can quickly become overwhelming, and the overall impact of divorce on mental health can be substantial. That’s why it’s critical for anyone going through a divorce to prioritize their mental health. Doing so can help you cope with the immediate stress of the situation while also laying a foundation for a healthier and more fulfilling future.

Considering the Impact of Divorce on Mental Health

The connection between divorce and mental health should not be taken lightly. Around 20% of American adults already deal with mental illnesses, and a history of mental health issues can increase the risk of having difficulty adjusting to the changes brought on by divorce, especially for those with substance abuse issues.

Anyone going through a divorce typically experiences a range of emotions, including shock, sadness, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety, and, in some cases, relief. While each of these emotions is valid and, on their own, may sound manageable, it’s important to recognize that they can evolve into more serious health and mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, chronic stress, insomnia, and lowered self-esteem. If you notice that your mental health is declining during a divorce, it’s important that you address the situation as soon as possible with an appropriate professional and lean on your personal support system.

The connection between divorce and mental health is not only felt by the spouses. Children can be significantly affected by the divorce process, with many experiencing confusion, guilt, and fear for the future. Issues like these can drastically impact a child’s life, affecting their academic performance and social relationships.

Common Mental Health Challenges During Divorce

During a divorce, mental health issues can include:

• Depression and Anxiety: Feelings of loss and uncertainty are common during a divorce, and these issues can lead to depression and anxiety disorders when left untreated. As a result, you may find it more difficult to focus and perform daily tasks and maintain relationships.
• Stress: Between legal proceedings, financial matters, custody arrangements, and changes in living situations, divorce can significantly heighten stress levels. When this evolves into chronic stress, it can weaken the immune system and increase the risk of health problems.
• Identity Crisis: When it comes to mental health and divorce, one issue that’s commonly overlooked is confusion about one’s identity post-divorce. Shifts in personal roles and social circles can lead to questions like “Who am I without my spouse?” or “What does my future look like now?”
• Social Isolation: During a divorce, mental health issues can often take root in feelings of deep loneliness and isolation. While these feelings can be a result of losing your spouse, they can also be triggered by a change in social networks and the break-down of close friendships, as those around you may feel the need to choose sides.
• Anger and Resentment: Lingering anger or resentment toward an ex-spouse can hinder the healing process and affect new relationships.

Strategies for Managing Mental Health in a Divorce

• Seek Professional Support: If you’re concerned about the impact of divorce on your mental health, consider contacting a therapist, counselor, or divorce coach. These professionals can help guide you through your emotional journey by providing effective coping strategies and a safe space to express your feelings and work through emotional challenges.
• Stay Connected: It’s important to maintain healthy relationships with your friends and family, as they can provide emotional support and a sense of normalcy during these troubled times.
• Practice Self-Care: While mental health professionals and loved ones can offer much-needed support, you should also learn how to care for your own mental health. Try engaging in activities that promote well-being, such as regular exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep, journaling and mindfulness practices like yoga or meditation. Practicing self-care habits like these can help rebuild your self-esteem and emotional resilience and help you be your best advocate in divorce.
• Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that healing takes time and it’s normal to have a mix of good and bad days. Setting small, achievable goals can provide a sense of accomplishment that over time adds up to significant progress.
• Educate Yourself: Take some time to learn more about mental health and divorce to better understand the challenges you may face. Knowledge can empower you to make informed decisions and reduce anxiety.
• Consider Support Groups: Remember that you’re not the only one going through this. Joining a support group can connect you with others experiencing similar challenges, help reduce feelings of isolation, and provide practical advice that has worked for others.

The Role of Legal Support

Having the support of a compassionate and experienced divorce attorney alleviates some of the stress associated with divorce. An attorney who understands and respects the divorce-mental health connection can handle legal complexities and advocate for your best interests, allowing you to focus on your well-being and the future ahead of you. They can clarify complicated legal matters, help set realistic expectations, and offer resources for additional support if you need them.

At Goranson Bain Ausley, we recognize the importance of prioritizing your mental health during this transitional time. Our dedicated team of family law attorneys is here to support you through every step of the divorce process with empathy and guidance. Contact us today to schedule a consultation and take the first step toward a brighter, healthier future.

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