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When Is it Time to Divorce?

Chandler Rice Winslow | May 13, 2025

Deciding to end a marriage is hard. Many couples will do everything they can to save their marriage, even when the issues continue to pile up. Fighting to keep your relationship alive is admirable, but sometimes it is important to recognize when the ending of a marriage is inevitable and for the benefit of both parties. Prolonging a marriage that is beyond repair can often cause more harm than good. So—how do you know when it’s time to divorce? Our experienced family law attorneys can provide guidance to help you decide for yourself or together with your spouse.

How to Know if You Should Get a Divorce

There are several warning signs may indicate that a marriage is beyond saving. Here are some common signs to be aware of so you can better understand how to know when to divorce and when to seek out other means of supporting the repair of a marriage:

Already Considering Divorce as a Real and Viable Option

Have you been asking yourself questions like, “Is my marriage over?” or “Should I divorce my spouse?” If so, that could be a sign you have subconsciously already decided that divorce is imminent, and that it is time to divorce. While everyone feels moments of frustration with their spouse, if you find that you regularly and deeply consider divorce as a solution, it could indicate that you have already decided you are ready to move on from the marriage.

Abuse

In cases of abuse, whether physical, emotional, or otherwise, it’s essential to protect yourself and any children involved. This is often the clearest indication of when to end a marriage. If you feel unsafe, you do not need any additional justification to seek legal help.

Chronic Long-Term Unhappiness

Having one bad day isn’t reason enough to start asking “Should I get divorced?” However, if you find that you are consistently unsatisfied with your marriage, or if you are feeling anxious or depressed about your relationship daily, that may mean it’s time to consider letting go.

Constant Conflict Without Resolution

Occasional arguments occur in any interpersonal relationship, and marriage is no exception. Between finances, parenting, and personal opinions, it is normal for spouses to argue every once in a while. But if conflict has become an almost daily occurrence with all of your fights tending to end without conflict resolution, that could indicate that a couple has irrevocable differences that they cannot move past, and it is time for a divorce.

Fundamental Differences

Marriages don’t always end due to confrontational issues though—people grow and change over time, sometimes in ways that are not parallel to their spouses. You may find that you and your spouse have diverged so greatly from once shared values and goals that you are no longer in alignment with each other. Perhaps you have developed different lifestyle preferences, long-term goals, or personal philosophies. These changes are not inherently anyone’s fault, but they may be irreconcilable.

Broken Trust

Trust is essential for any marriage. If there’s been overwhelming dishonesty, repeated lies, or infidelity, your relationship could be in trouble, especially if attempts to repair trust are unsuccessful.

Emotional Withdrawal

When spouses are emotionally checked out, it becomes much harder to reconnect. If you feel more like roommates or strangers living under the same roof and neither partner is committed to improving the relationship, it may be time to divorce.

Professional Support Didn’t Help

Many couples benefit from marriage counseling to resolve their issues within their marriage. Professionals like therapists and counselors help spouses work on problem-solving and areas of improvement or disagreement in a safe and productive space so they can make a clear and level-headed decision as to whether or not the marriage is salvageable. However, if only one spouse is interested in seeking help or you have already worked with one of these professionals without seeing results, that may mean it’s time to consider a divorce.

Ultimately, deciding when to get divorced is a very personal choice. If you have tried to save the relationship or your spouse refuses to address ongoing issues, it may be time to move on. Consulting a compassionate family law attorney can provide clarity on the legal implications of divorce and help you decide what’s best for you.

Contact Goranson Bain Ausley for Guidance

If you still find yourself asking “When is it time to get a divorce?” we can help you assess your situation and understand your options. At Goranson Bain Ausley, we guide clients with empathy and experience, ensuring that you feel empowered whether you choose to stay or proceed with divorce. Contact us today to schedule your consultation.

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