For couples over 50 with adult children, the Court tends to view your divorce as simply a division of property and debts. Our family lawyers, however, understand that the situation is more complex than that. Even though you may not need to worry about possession schedules or child support, your adult children are still top of mind during your divorce. Collaborative divorce goes beyond current finances and brings personal family matters into the conversation.
How does divorce impact adult children at different life stages?
Many assume that adult children are less affected by their parents’ divorce than younger children; that isn’t always the case. If anything, adult children may have more nuanced questions about how their parents’ divorce will affect them. Young adult kids just barely “out of the house” worry about how their college will be paid after their parents split up. Adult kids in their late 20s and early 30s are often concerned about how their parents’ divorce might impact their own wedding plans. And adult kids in the next stage of life are understandably focused on the effect of the divorce on grandkids and on family estate planning. Not to mention who will care for each aging parent if they are no longer together.
How does the “team approach” work and how is the “team approach” a benefit of Collaborative Divorce?
One of the benefits of a collaborative divorce is that it utilizes a team approach. We identify the couple’s goals and fears and then work productively to meet those objectives and allay those concerns. Each team member contributes to the success of the Collaborative Divorce process. These team members can include, but are not limited to:
Neutral financial professionals who can help with transparent information gathering and create one spreadsheet that both clients can agree upon.
Mental health professionals who keep the process safe and moving forward at an appropriate pace.
Adult child specialists who can work directly with your kids and facilitate family conversations.
And, of course, collaboratively trained lawyers who help you come up with a plan to preserve what is working well in your family even after the divorce is behind you.
Can a Collaborative Divorce be creative? How does that help clients stay in control?
You’ve spent years raising your family and building a healthy financial estate. Why would you want to let a judge use a cookie-cutter approach to dismantling it? A collaborative divorce keeps you in control. When you’re divorcing after 50, you bring a lifetime of intelligence and experience to the negotiating table. We can help you and your spouse come up with tools and options, but then you get to make the decisions about what your family relationships and your finances will look like after the divorce.
How can Goranson Bain Ausley help?
Collaborative divorce offers the opportunity to protect your adult children from the stress and conflict of divorce and preserve your financial assets to the greatest extent possible. At Goranson Bain Ausley, we have credentialed collaborative divorce lawyers who have the experience and strategies to help you achieve your goals if you’re facing or contemplating divorce later in life.
Our attorneys are experienced in all aspects of family law and will guide you through each step of the process, ensuring you have the information you need to make wise decisions and prepare for the future.